Lost in a Crowd
You have spent countless hours rehearsing the perfect proposal. You went to the ends of the earth to outdo all others before you and you've pulled it off. Your proposal was complete with shrieks of surprise, tears of joy, kisses of shocked passion and of course shouts of a resounding yes. You pulled it off big boy. Way to go. Now if you sit back and rest on your laurels...you're a freakin' dead man. You can't stop here...you can't hold back now. If you do she will run roughshod all over you.
Case in point, your idea was this outstanding and original proposal, but you hadn't really concentrated on when the actual wedding would be, am I right? You don't have to answer...I'm always right. Now the train is about to leave the station, and if you're not careful you won't be on it. Trust me on this. I've seen it many times before. You go to your best friend's home and you and the soon-to-be missus share the terrific news. The first question that will be asked is, "when's the date?" You'll shrug your shoulders like Dopey from Snow White and she'll spout out, "August 2nd!" You'll do a double take, wheel around and say, "whassat?" That's right...the train is leaving. It's pulling out of the station right before your very eyes. As your fiance and her female friend leave the room and you are left with your male buddy to smoke a stogie, play a little Tiger Woods on playstation and drink a beer as you think about what groomsmen gifts to get your buddy, you'll find a longing to be in the other room with the girls as they plan the most expensive day of your life. SLAM! That was the door. Both in reality and theoretically. Don't let this happen to you! Get up off your ass! Put the cigar (or doobie) down and get in that room. They are spending upwards of $3,000 per minute in there and you will soon have no say in anything.
Before you're wrapping groomsmen gifts, wondering where all the money went, get in there!
This ringing true for some of you guys that are celebrating wedding anniversaries? Don't answer that. I'm always right (or I.A.R. in the future). The point that I'm trying to make here - and there are many - is that if you're really going to do this, do it right from start to finish. Have a say in everything. Don't think you're done once you've bought the groomsmen gifts and then fade out toward the finish line. Go for it. Yes, that means be involved in more than just how good the cake is and what the DJ is going to play. It means sit with her and mull over the flowers, the centerpieces, the food, the invitations, gown, the tuxes...geez, I better stop here, I'm getting exhausted. You get the point. It's a big day, man, don't let it go by and just be one in the crowd as she shines and glows. You shine too, okay? 'Til next time.
Sam
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