10 Things Men Need to Know About Women
Ever wonder why you're fiance keeps "nagging" you to buy those groomsmen gifts? Or how she remembers your first date when you barely remember to tie your shoes? Or what she does when you're not home? Hint: she's not pining away for you. Here are ten things you might not know about the female species.
Disclaimer: this article is not meant to generalize, stereotype or pigeon-hole either gender. It does not apply to every woman, every man, or every marriage.
1. We Hate Your Ego Women are told by every women's magazine (with the exception of Ms.) to stoke their guy's ego daily or he'll run off and find another woman. It's a lot of pressure! Meanwhile, our bruised egos are left somewhere in the self-esteem graveyard that is junior high. Celebrate your lady's achievements and she'll do the same for you. Congratulate her if she makes more money than you (the horror) and remember, you're not in competition, you're a team.
2. We Hate Nagging Most of us think our husbands are near perfect. Expect for the fruit flies circling the dishes because he didn't do them....again. Ladies, let him deal with the leaning tower of pans. And guys, take the initiative and do the housework before she has to ask you. When you didn't do a chore and it directly results in something gross that we don't want to do, we're going to gently remind you (nag, nag, nag) again. Do it the first time.
3. You Confuse Us "Women are a mysterious bunch." We're mysterious? Guys can go years without shedding a single tear and we're the big mystery? Let your wife know when you're feeling stressed, when she hurts your feelings, and when you think she's beautiful. If you don't, she'll resort to over analyzing everything you say. This lack of communication leads to those torturous "What did he mean by this" convos we have with our girlfriends. Say what you mean and mean what you say.
4. We Need "Me Time" Too Men aren't the only ones who need wind down time after work or a wild night out with their buddies. Bet your betrothed would greatly appreciate a few minutes to paint her nails without you hogging the bathroom. Or a night out with her best gal pals. Women are natural givers- a lot of us give our precious time to everyone else without realizing that being selfish is sometimes a good thing. Heck, sometimes it's a great thing. Encourage your lady friend to take some "me time" while you handle her ever-growing errand list.
5. We Need to Hear "I Love You" More In the bedroom before, during, and after nooky, those three big words don't count. And we hate always saying it first. Say it when it's unexpected. Say it when you feel it. Just say it!
6. We Hate it (Most) When You Lie How many times have you wrongly anticipated your bride-to-be's reaction and lied about something? "Yes, honey I bought the groomsmen gifts, they were delayed..." Instead of "I didn't get to the groomsmen gifts, I will tomorrow." Little lies lead to big, big problems and make you seem untrustworthy. Fibbing when she asks you if her butt looks big is fine. Lying about where you were yesterday is not.
7. We're Afraid of Commitment Most people don't know this (obviously, by the lack of ball-and-chain bachelorette party shirts) but we're just as afraid as men of commitment. Sure, some of us love wedding planning, but sometimes that "one man for the rest of our lives" feeling catches hold of us too. We're fearful of losing our independence, our interests, our single life. Marriage is a big step, and most of us are naturally nervous about the lifelong commitment it entails.
8. We're Terrified of Pregnancy Even if there's no rational reason think we're pregnant, we obsess about it constantly. Approach our fears with caution. Don't ever say, "you're crazy" or you'll send her straight to the bathroom in tears.
9. We Think You're Sexy (At Odd Times) When you're taking out the garbage, when you're petting the dog, when you're holding a baby, when you're wearing a white tee-shirt and jeans, when you're fixing things....Play it up a little!
10. We Remember Everything On your fiftieth anniversary, your wife will bring up things you don't remember: The shirt you were wearing the first time you kissed, the first time you reached for her hand, the first gift you ever gave her. Unfortunately, our mind is a library of all the mistakes you made too, so, if you ever tell her she looks like your sister, she'll probably bring it up years later.
There's probably much more you don't know about women. Read the almost-perfect husband guidebook for some more marriage guidance. Or give it to your clueless, married groomsmen as groomsmen gifts!
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